As I mentioned in my previous post, I spent eight weeks traveling in France and Mexico this summer, for a combo of vacation and remote work. It was one of my 2021 intentions coming true and I loved it.
What I have not told you is that It took me two full weeks to readjust to my life in California after all this time away. During those two weeks, I had not much desire to do any work stuff except my clients’ calls.
I noticed last Saturday how hard I was on myself because there was business stuff that I had not done yet or important emails I had not followed upon.
Then, I realized how during those past two weeks, I was just not in an emotional and mental space to focus on my business as much. It is not that I was “lazy” or “unproductive” (as my inner critic wanted me to believe), it is simply that my system—emotional, mental, and physical—needed time to reset and reintegrate into my life here, after such a deep connected experience in my native land. I needed integration time. I’ve noticed over the years that the longer and deeper the experience is, whether travel, retreat, or training, the longer the integration back will need to be. And it is important to honor that. There is no bypassing it. This is a natural process, as natural as the change of seasons or the blossoming of a flower.
Being kind to yourself is giving compassion for that part who needs integration time, instead of judging it. Would you judge a flower for the time it takes to blossom? or the seasons for the process it takes to go from one to the next?
Well, now I feel at peace with exactly where I am at, what I’ve done and what I’ve not done yet. I feel relaxed about it and know that all will be done in its natural timing. My energy and motivation to invest in my life and business in California are back. They just went back naturally when I was ready, without forcing it or trying to make it happen. As things happen in nature. Organically and effortlessly.
Are you letting things unfold in their own natural timing or are you forcing things to happen before the timing is right?
Are you going with the flow of the river of life while taking the necessary actions you are called to take–this does not mean being passive–, or are you trying to push against the flow of the river in your life?
The second option is exhausting, will make everything hard, and will often not get you where you want to go. Rather the opposite.
Wishing you kindness and compassion towards yourself.
I realized that I had lost my center by constantly checking the updates of the current crisis.
Every time I was checking the updates of the Coronavirus in the US, in France, and in the world, I just could not stop myself from reading and reading more about it. It was as if a spider has taken me in its web, and I could not untangle myself from it. I was glued in it.
On Friday afternoon, I was feeling heavy in my heart and mind, as if a big dark cloud was hanging over me. …like the gloom of the world has taken over me.
It felt like my mind was pulled away in so many directions. …like my mind was not my own anymore.
and that I could not focus on the things I want to create in my life now.
I realized that I needed a break to recenter and come back to being the creator of my life.
Here is what I’m doing this weekend:
– I’m NOT checking ANY news or updates about the coronavirus for 2 full days at least. – I’m taking the time to meditate, read, and journal. – I’m writing and sharing all the amazing things I’m grateful for in my life. They are so many. – I’m going for luscious walks in nature. – I’m connecting with friends, family, and community through Zoom, phone calls, messages, Facebook. – I’m being of support to people in my life who need my love and presence. – I also attended a fun dance party on Zoom with friends. – I asked friends on Facebook to post funny/silly memes so that I could laugh out loud.
Tonight, as I write this, I’m feeling:
– refreshed and recentered. – lighter, with joy and gratitude in my heart. – clear-minded about what is happening in the world and what I can do best to help. – armed with a fresh perspective about this crisis and the blessings and rebirth that will come from it – empowered to be an active creator of my life.
What about you?
Are you taking the time to refresh and recenter in these times?
If so, what are you doing?
If not, this is TIME! unless you want to let the events of the world be in the driver seat of your life.
This is SO important… always, but EVEN MORE so now.
Recharge and recenter, so that: … you don’t let yourself be pulled away every moment of the day by the flow of intense news. … you don’t let the external events dictate your life. … you don’t lose your center, your creative force. … you don’t let the gloom of the world colors your internal state.
Recharge and recenter, so that: … you come back to your center. … you connect back to your gratitude for life. … you stay in the driver seat of your life. … you create what you are here to create.
Be gentle with yourself.
What we are facing is unprecedented in our lifetime, and we are all learning how to be with it.
I’m learning too and doing it imperfectly.
Love and blessings to you and your loved ones,
P.S. I hope you and everyone around you is well. Here in California, we have a shelter-in-place order for 3 weeks at least.