I mean: answer it honestly, without censoring yourself to make a good impression or worrying about what people think about what you love?
If not, that may be one of the things stopping you from finding the career you love.
I’ve seen it with several of my clients.
Some just cannot answer that question.
Others have negative judgments (or even shame) about some of the things they TRULY ENJOY doing and they hide them.
How can you find the work you love if you don’t know what brings you TRUE JOY and HAPPINESS or if you are thinking it’s not okay to love what you love?
It is very hard.
The first step is becoming aware of what you enjoy and what your unique ingredients of fulfillment. are, independently of what people think or what you think these “should” be.
This is why we start with that in my coaching programs.
A good way to begin is to collect your happiness (or even “micro happiness”) moments at the end of the day or week. At the end of the day, take a journal and write down the moments, even brief, when you experienced joy during your day or week.
Keep me posted on what you find!
To the work that brings you JOY!
P.S. One of the things that bring me joy and that I used to hide and be embarrassed about is FASHION and dressing up. I used to judge it, thinking it was “superficial” and “not smart enough” to like fashion and beauty. Fashion is often poo-pooed in our hyper-masculine and hyper-analytical western cultures and considered “weak” or “superficial.” I am not hiding it anymore! This is part of who I am and I own it. I’m not less smart because I LOVE fashion.
Since my grandma’s death a month ago, I’ve been remembering all the sweet memories of my time with her.
I found this picture of me when I was 4 in front of my grandparents’ house. My grandma took it.
You may wonder: What has this to do with going for the career and life of your dreams?
It has EVERYTHING to do with it.
In the past 10 years, I’ve been doing a lot of inner work to heal my childhood wounds and change the limiting beliefs I had about myself since childhood that impacted my life as an adult.
I used to think that there was something wrong with me. I was not pretty enough. I was not fun enough. I was not [fill in the blank] enough.
Thanks to all the inner work, I now know that these beliefs were FALSE.
I’m PERFECT exactly as I am. There is nothing wrong with me.
There has never been.
…except in my own mind.
When I see this adorable little girl, I can LOVE her exactly as she was. and send her the love that I could not give her then.
I see PERFECTION in her. I see BEAUTY in her. INSIDE and OUT.
I know she has nothing to prove to anyone.
She never had.
What about you?
Are you able to love your younger self and see the perfection in them?
Are you still holding negative beliefs about yourself? That you are not enough or broken in some ways?
Are these negative beliefs unconsciously driving you to PROVE that you are enough? to make choices in your career and your life to PROVE your enoughness?
If so, this may be why you are stuck in work you hate or not having the work and life you want.
I see it in a lot of my clients. The deep-seated belief that they are not enough. and the need to prove that they are enough.
As a result, they make choices or behave in a way to PROVE their enoughness.
The unconscious false beliefs they took on as a child is still driving their work and life as adults.
They wonder why they are stuck in a vicious cycle and can’t be happy in their work.
Through the process I do with them, I help them reconnect with their true authentic self, their innate brilliance within. They start realizing there is nothing wrong with them, nothing to change about who they are.
…and things start to shift.
What beliefs are you holding about YOU?
Comment below and share with me. I’m here to support you.
To your brilliance, To the work and life that reflect that brilliance,
Do you know what is one of the BIGGEST ROADBLOCKS to discovering the Career You Love?
….and that I’ve seen in so many of my clients, especially when they seem really stuck.
Well, I can tell you what it is NOT. It is NOT:
– a lack of clarity (even if people think it is, and at a superficial level it feels that way)
– a lack of skills or talents
– a lack of job or career options out there
Nope, none of that.
Surprising, eh? Here is what it is:
Some negative beliefs about themselves they took on as a result of painful life experiences (or conditioning) and the story they made around it:
“I’m not worthy”
“I’m too wild”
“I’m not lovable”
“I’m not as smart as my brother”
“I’m not smart”
“I’m too bossy”
“I’m too much”
“I’m not creative”
I’m not good enough”
….and the list goes on and on.
I’ve seen that in SO MANY of my clients that I cannot ignore it. Many times, there is a point in the process we get there, and it’s when the real breakthrough happens.
Because this is the REAL BLOCK. It is our perception of who we are that affects what we think we can do.
Let me say that again:
It is our perception of who we are that affects what we think we can do.
Let it sink in.
When we clear that, everything changes. And suddenly, my clients realize that clarity was not the problem. They KNEW ALL ALONG what they truly wanted.
It isthe shadow of their old wound that made it blurry for them to see what they truly wanted.
When it’s cleared, they are ready to: Give themselves permission to be who they are and love what they love.
From that place, EVERYTHING becomes possible.
So, here are my question for you:
Deep down, do you hold negative beliefs about yourself?If so, what are they?
Be really honest with yourself. This is an uncomfortable place, but this is a necessary place to explore if you want to create the career and life you truly want.
I know. I’ve been there myself.
And this is why I’m ready to go there with you. This is in the shadow that you will find your light. Sometimes, there is no other way.
But the journey is SO worth it. This is where lasting change happens. I guarantee it. I’ve seen it so many times now.
Are you ready?
I’m ready to go there with you!
Feel free to comment below and share. I am here cheering you on.
I believe in you.
P.S. To your brilliant light that is waiting to soar.
Do you know that saying NO to what you don’t want is as important as saying YES to what you want?
It is often a prerequisite to it.
It is necessary.
You need to say no to what you do NOT want to make space for what you DO want. There is no other way.
Andthis is true when you want to do work you love.You have to let go of work that is not for you.
Last week,I hada professional organizer come to my place to help me organize and declutter three big closets I have been procrastinating on. She was so good that she ended up reorganizing my whole apartment!
I gave away several boxes of stuff. I let go of what was not serving me anymore.
I let go of things that were not bringing me joy.
I let go of things from the past that were not aligned with the future I am creating. It was not easy.
I wanted to grab onto them.
I resisted at first.
But I knew grabbing onto them would not help me create the feeling I wanted to have in my place. I HAD to let go to create the NEW feeling I wanted.
I had to let go of the old to make space for the new. I am SO happy I did. It was worth it.
I LOVE how my place feels like.
It feels so much more open and spacious for the new things I want in my life.Here are just a few pics. There is WAY more. My closets look amazing! I’m so happy with them that the first thing I do when I get up is look at them. 🙂
What do you need to say NO to to welcome what you want?
What is no longer working for you?
What is it you keep doing or having even if that does not bring you joy?
This is the experience of a lot of my clients. When they clarify the career they DO want, it often comes a time when they have to say NO to what they do not want anymore, which includes the shining offers coming their way that are a reflection of their old self and their old life. I call them “shiny objects.” Ah, because they are SO tempting…
What are “shiny objects” that look so cool on the outside but you know deep down that they are NOT what you truly want?
To make space for what you DO want, you will have –at some point, when the time is right– to say NO to what you do not want anymore.
It won’t be easy.
You will resist it.
Your rational mind will tell you all the reasons why you should not do it.
You will second guess yourself.
I will take courage.
But it will be SO worth it.
What is on the other side is your freedom and your joy.
I know it. I have been through it.
This is what I stand for.
This is why I do this work. To help you be free to be who you truly are and do what you love.
To your freedom,
P.S. Comment below and let me know what you need to say NO to. I want to hear and support you!