Since my grandma’s death a month ago, I’ve been remembering all the sweet memories of my time with her.
I found this picture of me when I was 4 in front of my grandparents’ house. My grandma took it.
You may wonder: What has this to do with going for the career and life of your dreams?
It has EVERYTHING to do with it.
In the past 10 years, I’ve been doing a lot of inner work to heal my childhood wounds and change the limiting beliefs I had about myself since childhood that impacted my life as an adult.
I used to think that there was something wrong with me. I was not pretty enough. I was not fun enough. I was not [fill in the blank] enough.
Thanks to all the inner work, I now know that these beliefs were FALSE.
I’m PERFECT exactly as I am. There is nothing wrong with me.
There has never been.
NEVER.
…except in my own mind.
When I see this adorable little girl, I can LOVE her exactly as she was. and send her the love that I could not give her then.
I see PERFECTION in her. I see BEAUTY in her. INSIDE and OUT.
I know she has nothing to prove to anyone.
She never had.
What about you?
Are you able to love your younger self and see the perfection in them?
or
Are you still holding negative beliefs about yourself? That you are not enough or broken in some ways?
Are these negative beliefs unconsciously driving you to PROVE that you are enough? to make choices in your career and your life to PROVE your enoughness?
If so, this may be why you are stuck in work you hate or not having the work and life you want.
I see it in a lot of my clients. The deep-seated belief that they are not enough. and the need to prove that they are enough.
As a result, they make choices or behave in a way to PROVE their enoughness.
The unconscious false beliefs they took on as a child is still driving their work and life as adults.
They wonder why they are stuck in a vicious cycle and can’t be happy in their work.
Through the process I do with them, I help them reconnect with their true authentic self, their innate brilliance within. They start realizing there is nothing wrong with them, nothing to change about who they are.
…and things start to shift.
What beliefs are you holding about YOU?
Comment below and share with me. I’m here to support you.
To your brilliance, To the work and life that reflect that brilliance,
I have a question for you to help you start 2019. Probably one of the most important questions you need to ask yourself.
As I was playing one of these Facebook games (yes, I could not resist!), I received a powerful quote and I thought about you.
I thought you might need to hear this.
Here it goes.
Are you waiting for someone (your spouse, your parents, your co-workers, society, your boss, etc.) to give you permission to…
…BE who you are?
…DO the work you love?
…FOLLOW your dreams?
…LOVE what you love?
…LIVE the life you want to live?
Listen carefully. Sometimes, we do that in subtle ways.
If so, this is time to STOP.
Yes, STOP.
Stop waiting for others’ and the outside world’s permission to be who you are and do what you love.
If not now, when?
next year?
in 10 years?
on your death bed, when it’s too late?
A palliative nurse recorded the most common regrets of the dying and put her findings into a book called “The Top Five Regrets of The Dying.”
Guess what is the #1 regret of people at the end of their lives?
Well, this one:
“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
“This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realize until they no longer have it.”
Is that you? Be truly honest with yourself. Stop and look within.
If so, don’t wait!
in which area of your life are you giving others or society the power to decide who you are and what you should do with your life or career?
In which aspect of your work or life can you be more true to yourself?
Slow down and take the time to reflect now.
If not, fabulous! Congrats on being true to you!
Are there areas in your life where you could be even more true to you and let go of others’ or society’s ideas and opinions?
Forward this email to someone you know (spouse, coworker, friend, relative) who may need to hear this message.
Whatever your situation is, say this out loud a few times with me.
Yes, out loud. Now.
There is a power in declaring out loud the reality we want. It helps enters into our consciousness more.
“I don’t need your permission to be exactly who I am.”
Say it again.
“I don’t need your permission to be exactly who I am.”
This is what I told my clients just a few hours ago.
I facilitated the first Virtual Workshop (“Get The Key Ingredients For Career Fulfillment”) of my 4-month group programRoadmap To A Career You Love tonight.
When I planned the calendar of the calls, I did not realize it would fall on Election Day in the US.
Probably because I am not an American citizen (yet), so I cannot vote here.
And I think it was actually PERFECT.
The call and exercises were all about uncoveringtheir values, the core drivers and ingredients of career satisfaction.
How perfect to dive into their values, in this very poignant moment in the history of the US and the world.
I told my clients this, and some of it applies to you as well, wherever you are in the world:
You showing up on this call and doing this process is VOTING.
You uncovering your TRUE AUTHENTIC SELF and bringing it to the world through the work you do is VOTING.
You VOTE when you shine your light in the world.
You VOTE when you do the work you are meant to do
This is probably one of the most powerful ways to VOTE.
Yes, it is.
Don’t underestimate the transformative power of YOU shining your TRUE LIGHT in the world.
This is one of the most powerful things you can do.
The more you are TRUE TO YOU, the more you transform the world.
Yep. this is as simple as that.
You are here on this planet to BE YOU. And by doing so, you make the positive difference you are here to make.
When you own who you are and your unique talents, gifts, and essence and you bring them to your work and your life, you impact the world.
The most powerful way to change the world is to BE YOUR FREAKIN’ BEAUTIFUL SELF!!
This is the call that kicks-off our four months together.
Oh boy, I was impressed. They already went deep and were vulnerable on the very first call.
It is such a joy and a privilege to servesuch big-hearted people on their path to using their gifts to make a difference in the world.
This is how I change the world. One person at a time.
My heart opens up each time I hear my clients share their visions, struggles, and commitment to getting support.
I am so happy for them because I know how transformed they are going to be at the end of this journey. I’ve seen it so many times.
You may wonder… why doing a career coaching process within the context of a group and not just 1:1?
Well, this is directly coming from my own experience
and where I reveal the behind the scenes of my success.
Can you guess what have been 2 keys factors of my success and fulfillment in the past 5 years?
Well, let me share with you…
I’ve hired a lot of mentors and coaches.Business coaches, love mentors, spiritual mentors, healer, therapist. I’ve invested lots of $$$, energy, and time in getting the right support. and it has been SO WORTH IT! I would NOT be where I am right now in my career and life without their support. As my mentor says, “getting help is not being weak, it’s being wise”. So, if you have never worked with a coach or mentor before, you should ask yourself why and what has stopped you from doing so.
I’ve been part of amazing communities of support. When I signed up to work with my business and love coaches, it has been part of group programs. It means that I received both 1:1 support from my coach and group support from people on a similar journey as mine.
I was initially skeptical…
But, this combo, 1:1 + group support, has been and still is, the most powerful and transformative for me.
Let me share in pictures.
Dinner together to celebrate our full day of masterminding.
These women are friends and business owners I’ve known for 5 years when I started my journey to develop my business. I met them when I signed up for a business coaching program to support me in developing my business.
I had a business coach and I was part of a community of like-minded visionaries and business owners on the same journey.
Being part of this community has been so helpful that we are still in touch, 3 years after the program ended.
We co-work together regularly on Zoom (I’m actually co-working with my friend Fawn as I’m writing this!) and we meet twice a year for 3 days to mastermind and support each other in our life and business.
We are more than colleagues, we became friends.
Celebrating Gretchen’s Birthday.
…and this is invaluable.
This is why I decided to offer that level of support to my clients, so they can experience the TRANSFORMATIVE POWER OF COMMUNITY and MENTORSHIP combined together.
I’m so happy to see that my clients who graduated from my past group programs are still meeting regularly.
As human beings, we need community. we just cannot do it alone.
So, let me ask you,
How are you doing on these 2 keys of success and fulfillment?
Do you have (or have you had) a coach or mentor to support you in an area of your career or life you struggle with?
Are you part of a community of support?
If yes, kudos to you!
If not, this is time to ask yourself:
which area of your career or life would you benefit from support?
what has stopped you from getting support for yourself?
These 2 keys have CHANGED MY LIFE. I know they CAN CHANGE YOURS TOO.
I am on a mission to support as many people as I can do their life’s work.
And this is the most FUN thing in the world for me to do!
Cathedral Rock, near Sedona, Arizona. Photo: Lindsay A. Miller
(Wealthy Goddess Retreat led by Kendra E Thornbury.)
I cannot help it. It flows out of me naturally and brings me so much JOY.
This is what happens when you do the work you are meant to do.
You CANNOT help but doing it all the time, without realizing you do it.
Because this isWHO YOU ARE.
Let me give you examples:
When I see a friend supporting a cause dear to their heart, it makes me happy.
When I see a friend or someone I know doing what they love or their life’s work, I champion them.
I cheer my friends on to go for their dreams and what their soul wants.
When I meet someone at a gathering doing what they love, I get so excited for them and I tell them.
When my clients start uncovering what they are here to do, I get SO FREAKIN’ HAPPY for them. I jump up and down. Yep, I’ve done that in sessions with clients. 🙂
When I see past colleagues going for their dreams, I am so proud of them and it fills my heart with joy.
I get SO excited, like a kid in the candy store!
What is it that you cannot help doing or thinking?
Hit reply and tell me, I’d love to hear.
And if you don’t know yet, well, this is a very cool exploration for you to go on.
HAVE FUN!
This is what doing your life’s work is supposed to be like!
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